Change the Year-End Narrative
Is it the Calendar or something in you?
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or mHere we are again. Midway through December, and I hear the familiar refrain: “That was a hard year.” Or the classic, “I can’t wait for this year to be over.” I’m hearing the same script, over and over, and it’s time to challenge this narrative we have fallen into a collective.
You absolutely do not have to end the year feeling like you’ve fallen off your tree. Life doesn't have to look like a chaotic mess just because the calendar hits December.
It seems this negative verbiage has simply become the norm. It’s an automatic script that life is inherently difficult, and that things are simply happening to you. It’s a collective shrug that says, 'It sucks, and this is just how it is.'aybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.
But what if, instead, you could genuinely say:
“I’ve had an incredible year. I have learned so much, I’ve found my balance. I am living the life I want to live. I have peace in my life, and I have so much joy.”
Why aren't you saying that?
The simple truth is this: Your life is still playing on an automatic cycle rooted in your past. Until you develop the skills to interrupt that cycle, you will remain trapped, unable to transform.
You will stay stuck until you face into all those places where you don’t feel good enough; until you quiet that inner critic that whispers constant self-doubt: “I don’t measure up. I can’t do this. I’m worthless. Don’t try, you’ll fail.”
🎄 The Hidden Gold in Your Year-End Triggers
And then, of course, Christmas arrives. The time of year you have to be with family, and suddenly, all those triggers arise.
It’s those moments when someone you seemingly love makes you feel lesser. It might be a glance, a disapproving stare, a comment that makes you feel small, a joke at your expense, or simply being talked over.
All those little things that you have normalised have this magnificent way of bringing all your unresolved wounds to the surface. And there you are, at a time of year that is supposed to be joyous, feeling like a piece of regurgitated hairball, really not loving life at all.
Use this Year-End as Your New Benchmark
If this is how life is right now, okay. Accept that. But don’t, for one second, accept that this is all there is meant to be.
Raise your hand and say, “Okay, I want to make this different.” Then, raise your observation skills.
Watch what happens this year at your Christmas parties, get-togethers, and family celebrations. Watch and learn. Observe what you feel, who you feel that with, and what is happening to evoke that feeling.
My friend, in these moments of observation are where you find your magnificent nugget of gold. Why? Because these are the clues, the markers showing what you need to work on. This is where your healing will start.
When so-and-so says that thing, and you feel that 'I'm not good enough' pressure, you can pause and ask yourself:
Is this fact? Is this feeling solely caused by how this person has treated me?
Or is this a narrative I am creating in my mind because of something that has happened to me before?
Ah, you see? Perhaps it isn’t fact. By taking a breath and taking a step outside of yourself, you start to see what is really happening. You pinpoint where those past unresolved wounds need healing. You start to see your triggers more clearly, and you join the dots: When this happens to me, I react like this, and the cost of that reaction is that.
What Is Your Role in The Year Turning Out This Way?
The second part of this is simple: if you’ve ended this year saying, “I’m so glad this is over,” is it because your life has been a series of reactionary behaviours?
Are you people-pleasing, putting others first, then ending up feeling resentful?
Are you trapped in the workaholic cycle because you need external acknowledgment, leaving your personal life a chaotic mess?
Are you staying in a toxic environment because you’re too afraid to trust yourself and be alone? (While relentlessly venting to your loved ones about the problems.)
If anything like this resonates with you, you are not alone. But I am here to tell you, you don’t have to be a victim. You really don’t.
So, let’s be frank. If you don’t want to be a victim, and you don’t want to be on repeat next year, how about asking yourself: “What is my role in this turning out this way?”
What are you doing to keep yourself in this misery? How can you start taking responsibility for your actions and how you are showing up in the world? Everything you do in life is a choice. Every. Single. Thing.
You have to look at this year-end business as the culmination of your choices, and every choice is directly correlated to your values, or living in opposition to them. The only person who can change this is you.
The Golden Ticket: Re-establishing Your Values
So how do you make different choices?
You need to re-establish your values for who you are today—not the values bestowed upon you by your family or social network. These values act as your guiding principles for each choice you make. To find them, you need to connect to what is important to you now and for your Future Self.
This process is the difference between ending the year feeling like a mess and ending it feeling empowered, liberated, and protected by healthy boundaries.
Let's look at three critical values you need to master:
Honesty: This means personal and public behaviour. You have to be brutally honest with yourself first. If you are sitting in this uncomfortable position, chances are you haven’t been truly honest, have you? This is a new skill—it’s bloody hard, because honesty is not always pretty, but damn, it’s liberating.
Trust: Do you even trust yourself? If you ignore what your gut tells you, you are choosing common rhetoric over your own innate wisdom. Trusting yourself is a skill. You need to build the ability to actually believe what your body is saying. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.
Challenge: What if you courageously said, “Okay, I need to challenge myself to end next year having trusted my gut, listened to my body, and been honest about my choices, regardless of the cost to my old patterns”? Challenge then becomes a new value you work on.
Do you see how these values are intertwined and all relate to one another? If you do, that is your golden ticket right there.
If you don't master the values that are relevant to you today, nothing in your life will change, and you keep your reservation at Motel I’m Stuck for years to come. Trust me on that one.
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