Your Liberation Toolbox: The Self-Trust Checklist
We have been looking at the skills required to trust yourself – or what I call in my books, your Liberation Toolbox. Why? Because when you finally trust yourself, the sense of liberation is unlike anything you’ve experienced. It is an awakening.
But don’t be fooled by the "rah-rah" version of awakenings. There are no fireworks in the sky; there is no big party. It’s a quiet shift. It’s a series of gentle behaviours and mindset changes that creep in and settle within you. One day, you simply realise things are different. Your lens has shifted and the world seems – believe it or not – a far more peaceful place.
So, work with me one more time. Let’s wrap this up and help you take another step forward. (For more on this, you can always pick up Book Two of The Change Experience series, A New Perspective.)
For now, close your eyes. Imagine you’re standing at the edge of a vast, open field. Breathe in the fresh air. Feel the sun on your face. You’ve walked a long, winding path to get here, haven’t you? A path marked by shadows and the echoes of past unresolved wounds. For so long, you turned to others for direction and validation because your own inner compass felt... well, a little broken. A little unreliable.
But look at you now. You have come this far. Something inside you is stirring. You are ready to rebuild that trust.
What does it mean to trust yourself?
After navigating a complicated history, self-trust isn't about reaching an impossible, "perfect" version of yourself where doubt never exists. It’s about something far more real. It’s about nurturing an unshakable belief in your own inner wisdom – that quiet voice of intuition. It’s about recognising your inherent worthiness. It is the absolute truth that you are valuable, just as you are: capable, resilient, and utterly deserving of a life that reflects your truest self.
Imagine the ripple effect. As you step into this self-trust, the changes unfold:
You make choices based on your genuine needs, not past pain.
You set healthy boundaries, not from fear, but from deep self-respect.
You ask for what you need without apology or shame.
You see mistakes with curiosity and compassion rather than harsh criticism.
You remove yourself from chaos because your peace is non-negotiable.
You learn to allow your emotions to flow like the tide, without being swept away. You use your grounding techniques – your anchors, your breathing, and Name and Tame – to stay rooted in the here and now. You trust that you know what is important, and you become fiercely protective of it.
This journey, my friend, is not a destination. It is a soft, graceful dance of self-acceptance. It’s about remembering who you truly are beneath the layers of conditioning and embracing that radiant self with a new sense of loving your new found trust.
The Self-Trust Checklist: Your Guide
(You can print this off or download a copy from the Resources page on my website to keep at your fingertips.)
Listen to Your Gut: Pay attention to those intuitive whispers; they are your inner compass guiding you home.
Validate Your Emotions: Your feelings are always valid. Acknowledge them and trust the messages they hold.
Set Healthy Boundaries: Your mental health is sacred. Learn to say “no” with grace and protect your energy.
Live Your Values: Identify what truly matters to your heart and make choices that align with them.
Learn from Mistakes: See each day as a "school day." Embrace imperfection and treat yourself with unwavering compassion.
Ask for What You Need: Your needs are important. Don't hesitate to ask for support; someone is always there.
Create Safe Spaces: Surround yourself with people and environments that nurture your soul and uplift your spirit.
Trust Your Path: Even when the road is bumpy, trust that you are exactly where you need to be. This, too, shall pass.
Ground Yourself: Use your techniques to stay present and connected, especially during the storms.
Prioritise Your Vitality: Nurture your body, mind, and spirit with healthy, loving choices.
Celebrate Your Strength: Acknowledge your incredible resilience and your capacity to heal.
Be Patient: Self-trust is a journey, not a race. Take your sweet time.
Remind yourself: You are enough. You are beautiful to the core. You possess the free will to trust.
Let it all sink in. I’m here, holding your hand.
Talk soon,
Fleur Elizabeth
